Helping Teens with Repetitive Behaviors Thrive in School and Life

Understanding Repetitive Behaviors in Teens

Repetitive behaviors in teens can take many forms: tics, compulsions, self-soothing routines, or seemingly habitual actions. While some are harmless quirks, others can interfere with learning, relationships, and self-esteem. These behaviors often stem from:

• Anxiety or stress

• Neurological differences (such as ADHD, OCD, or autism)

• Sensory processing challenges

• Habit loops formed over time

One of the most important things to understand is that these behaviors are not a choice. Your teen likely isn’t doing them on purpose—and may feel just as frustrated or embarrassed as you do. The goal isn’t to punish or shame, but to understand the “why” behind the behavior so you can help your teen develop healthier coping strategies.

Becoming a “Behavior Detective”

Before jumping to solutions, take some time to observe. Ask yourself:

• When do these behaviors occur?

• What’s happening right before and after?

• Is my teen feeling anxious, bored, or overwhelmed?

Keeping a simple journal or behavior log can reveal powerful patterns. For example, you might notice that your teen picks at their skin during math homework or starts pacing during transitions between tasks. Once you understand the “when” and “why,” you’re better equipped to support change.

Practical Strategies That Work

Helping your teen manage repetitive behaviors requires a toolbox of strategies, a healthy dose of patience, and lots of empathy. Here are a few evidence-based tools to try:

Create a Supportive Environment

• Lead with empathy. Acknowledge how hard this is—for both of you.

• Celebrate small wins. Reinforce efforts, not just results.

• Avoid criticism or punishment, which can increase anxiety and worsen the behavior.

Open the Lines of Communication

• Talk with your teen about their experience. What does the behavior feel like to them?

• Involve them in brainstorming strategies. Teens are more likely to commit to solutions they help create.

• Partner with teachers and school counselors to ensure consistent support across settings.

Try These Behavioral Techniques

• Competing Response Training: Help your teen practice a different behavior that makes the repetitive one impossible—like squeezing a stress ball instead of nail-biting.

• Stimulus Control: Identify and change environmental triggers. If the behavior happens during homework time, maybe a quieter space or background music helps.

• Structured Routines: Predictable routines can reduce anxiety, which often drives repetitive behaviors.

• Mindfulness & Relaxation: Teach simple calming techniques like deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation.

Remember, these strategies take time. Progress might be slow, and that’s okay. Celebrate small steps forward, and don’t give up.

When to Seek Professional Help

Sometimes, home strategies aren’t enough—and that’s not a failure. It’s just a sign that it’s time to call in extra support. Consider professional help if:

• The behavior is causing significant distress or social isolation

• It interferes with learning or daily functioning

• You’re seeing no improvement despite your best efforts

Support may come from:

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapists (CBT)

• Specialists in Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)

• School psychologists or behavior interventionists

• Pediatricians or psychiatrists (especially if medication might help)

There are also many supportive communities and resources for parents navigating these challenges. A few places to start:

• Child Mind Institute

• International OCD Foundation

• Local parent support groups or online forums

• Your teen’s school counseling office

You’ve Got This

Helping a teen with repetitive behaviors is not easy—but it’s doable. With empathy, consistency, and the right strategies, change is possible. Remember, your teen isn’t broken. They’re learning how to navigate a world that can be overwhelming—and your support makes all the difference.

Thank you to everyone who joined the webinar and shared their experiences. Whether you’re just starting this journey or have been at it for years, know that you are not alone—and every step forward counts.

Want more tools and support? Stay tuned for our upcoming parent workshops and resources. Let’s keep learning, growing, and breaking the cycle—together.